Sliding Sync: Include invite, ban, kick, targets when $LAZY-loading room members

[MadLittleMods]

Sliding Sync: Sliding Sync: Include invite, ban, kick, targets when $LAZY-loading room members.

This ensures that we send down membership updates whenever we see it change in the timeline. This allows clients to cache the membership list for as long as it doesn't get a gappy sync, but still ensures for large gaps the server doesn't need to send down all membership changes.

Fix #17929

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